We’re Used to It

Although women in America do not face many of the terrible fears and injustices many women do in developing countries, we do face sexism everyday. Simply based on the fact that we do not have unequal education dependent on gender, that we have laws against domestic violence and sexual harassment, and we have adequate healthcare for women (among other privileges), many men and women believe sexism does not exist anymore, as shown by the need for these arguments.

The type of sexism women face in America is, in most cases, very subtle. In our society, most people are accustomed to overlooking these instances. After doing some research (finding blogs dedicated to everyday feminism and statistics illustrating dues women have to pay that men do not), I have noticed many things I never have before. I have been, and seen other women, interrupted in class and just in general life by males. I have been asked by one of my guy friends how to iron one of his new work shirts, and been told that I should not study abroad alone because “every girl needs a friend to watch out for her”. As I started noticing these things more and more, I was not offended by any of them, I just realized the differences between how men and women are expected to act.

Along with everyday life, there is sexism in the media as well. I saw this video, by The Representation Project, in 2013 and I viewed the media in a new way. Until I saw this video, I rarely questioned how men and women were presented in the media. After watching this, I began viewing the objectification of both men and women and actually registering it as something that should not be a norm. I believe this is the beginning stage of changing the media industry. If everyone simply looked at the media in a different way, we would have the motivation and the numbers to Demand Better Media (another video by The Representation Project made in 2014).

In politics, many women are focused on for their appearance as opposed to their issues. For example, Hillary Clinton’s fashion sense as well as makeup techniques are highly discussed. I have, not once, heard a comment about Bernie Sanders’ appearance and unless a man looks are as ridiculous as Donald Trump’s, his physical characteristics are not commented on. But, we do not notice this because we are accustomed to hearing about women’s appearances and men’s opinions.anigif_enhanced-21045-1452089066-10

It is also surprising to see the lack of women involved in politics. Elle UK started a campaign dubbed #MoreWomen. They photoshopped all of the men in politics out of photographs. It is an extremely eye opening campaign.

But, for now, men and women are doing what they can to call out the injustices women face as well as their lack of representation in the media. Always launched its campaign, #LikeAGirl. Buzzfeed allows men to experience what being a female entails with their: Makeup Trial, Guys Try Motherhood, Heel Trial, Thong Trial videos, among other experiments. Videos, such as Body Evolution, call out the use of photoshop in our culture today. And, a short film, called Imagine a World, opened the eyes of millions to how the disapproval and mocking of homosexuality in our society should not be a norm. These, among other forms of media attempt to call out the injustices found in everyday life as well as open the eyes of those struggling to understand other perspectives. There is hope for the future, but we, as a society, have a long way to go.

Why Feminism Matters

As I have said before, I did not discover the necessity of feminism until recently. I saw Suffragette when it came out and was surprised by the suffering and struggle that went into women obtaining the right to vote. But, although it was depicted to me firsthand, I thought this struggle was long over. That is, until the end of the movie. A scrolling list appeared of countries paired with the year their female citizens gained the right to vote.

Seeing that countries, such as Saudi Arabia, just allowed women to vote in 2015 surprised me. I knew that many women do not have as many rights as men in all parts of the world — some countries more severe than others. But, I did not know they were denied such a basic right as to vote until so recently. I assumed many countries gave women these rights on paper but abused and denied them basic necessities “behind the scenes”. Because of this, it did not surprise me that women in Saudi Arabia are not allowed to vote unless it is with a man.

This is the moment I realized that feminism is not an important cause because I and other women around me are affected by injustices. It is necessary because women who are not around me are affected and although I do not have to struggle nearly as much as some women in the world do, I should still care.

When Suffragette movements were happening across the world simultaneously, they were powerful and brave. I believe this is because all women were fighting for one cause. All women. The rich, the middle class, and the poor had one goal in mind. As of today, particular groups of women have gained rights while others have not. This causes the feminist mission to be a little blurred. Many women do not declare themselves feminists, many women are complacent in their position in society, and many women fear the fight for rights.

American women and those living in other developed countries have struggles in society. These women have to deal with men speaking over them when they are talking, men physically walking in their paths, and the expectation that they should have children, among other things. For example: Hillary Clinton. When her husband cheated on her, she was the one who was criticized for staying with him, not her solely husband, who was unfaithful. She is continuously criticized and reported on for her clothing as opposed to her issues. And, her tactic for presenting her views is judged although it is the same as every other presidential candidate. These are all criticisms we, as a society, are used to. But, when examined, we can see that they are not fair.

Women around the world, though, have much different struggles that feminists should work to bring awareness to and work to cease. To list just a few: In Iraq, the literacy rate of women and girls is one of the lowest in the Arab world because many families fear rape and kidnapping by sending girls to school. In Pakistan, women are raped and killed as punishment for men’s crimes. Saudi Arabian women are forced to depend on men their whole lives. They rely upon men in order to drive a car or vote but may not socialize with them publicly (Ten Worst Countries for Women).

The issues of women in developed and developing countries differ from each other greatly. But, one thing they have in common is that, at the baseline, they are simply a struggle. And, because all women are struggling, albeit at different degrees, we all must band together to end the difficulties and the suffering.

Emma Watson UN Speech on Feminism

The first time I learned about feminism as a young adult was when Emma Watson spoke about it to United Nations. My ignorance on the subject until then came about for many reasons. I was not very aware of the need for a feminist movement (as Emma explains, women in first world countries do not face as much discrimination as other females); I assumed feminists were non-shaving, aggressive women; and, this was the first public feminist speech I had ever paid attention to. Watson explains why some women choose not to become feminists – these reasons I identified with until recently.

She acknowledges that these aspects of feminism are false. Emma points out that women should be paid equally, have complete control of their body, have equal say as the men in government, and deserve respect in society, among other reasons.

By appointing someone similar in age to teenage girls who were continuing to make up their mind about identifying as feminists, the women of the UN broadened the spectrum of proud feminists. Below is her inspiring and empowering speech that commenced my journey to defining myself as a feminist.